homeless again
Despite working 40 hours per week, I have lost my residence.
Child support takes so much of my income that I cannot even pay $400 per month rent. I only get $300 per month after support.
Tonight I need to get a ride to the local homeless shelter, as temperatures are supposed to fall to around 20F.
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I feel bad for your situation. I'm sure you will find another person to share a place with. There are places that you can rent based on your income too, something to check into. Next time, don't give your share of the rent money to a drug addict and expect him to give it to the landlord. At least you are still working and have an income to show. As far as child support, can't you get that changed so you can get ahead a little?
ReplyDeleteI seem to remember that you once wrote about your ex-wife describing her as a good person. Since your kids are essentially grown, do you think she would consider sending the current child support back to you after she receives it? I can't imagine that she currently needs it more than you, especially since it represents arrearages from long ago.
ReplyDeleteReally, I've wondered the same thing. How could anyone let her ex-husband and the father of her children suffer so? Jay, I hope and pray somehow you will find a safe warm place to stay and the essentials of life. You made mistakes which were beyond your control and there should be a way for you to recover your life and dignity. You haven't ever lost your intelligence and humor and decency, and you deserve comfort, health, and happiness.
ReplyDeleteWhy should the ex-wife give the money back? All of Jay's suffering is self inflicted through lame decisions. I'm sure with his lifestyle, and the absence of support over the years, his children and ex wife have suffered also.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure she was the one who suffered financially over the years with keeping food on the table and medical bills and educational obligations.
Remember, Jay would not be in this situation if he contacted the child support office earlier.
So I disagree that the ex wife is "letting him suffer".
Who knows, maybe she is also financially strapped from years of non-payment of child support, which is probably likely.
"Let him who is without sin cast the first stone ..." It's interesting that you are so self-righteous and judgmental but won't even identify yourself. "Judge not lest ye be judged." Apparently you lack the compassion to understand that a truly depressed person often lacks the ability to "take care of business." My brother went through a similar situation and ended his life many years ago to keep from being a burden to his loved ones (his perception, not ours.) We would do anything to be able to help him and give him an opportunity to recover his life. You often don't realize a person's
ReplyDeleteworth until it's too late. I believe that Jay's ex-wife is a compassionate lady who would be very distressed by his suffering. Most of us are financially strapped but we still have homes and food. Give him a chance to survive and live up to his potential. Pay it forward...
It is the loved ones for whom I have compassion and understanding for, they are the true sufferers. I am very sorry for the loss of your brother.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kindness. I too have compassion for the family. I just want an intelligent, caring young man to have a chance to correct his mistakes and recover his life. Then he could make it up to his family, but not unless he at least has enough to survive. I just hope and pray that all of them can be happy, healthy, and self-sufficient. Peace, love, and happiness to all!
ReplyDeleteIn case it's a family member or friend who is following this posting, I want to advise you that if his life has a tragic end, you will forever regret your lack of caring and charity but it will be too late. You may think it would bring some closure or justice, but the only one released from the suffering would be the one who died. Everyone else would be filled with unending sorrow and regret that you didn't do more or show him more love and compassion. If he ends his own life or starves or freezes to death or is murdered by those psychopaths who kill homeless people, you will suffer the rest of your life and wish you could go back and do more to help him recover his productive, happy life. I always showed love and compassion for my brother, but I thought I'd be relieved for him that he no longer suffered from his deep depression and hopelessness. Instead I miss him endlessly and wish I could help him restore his life. Yes, he had messed up his life and it seemed hopeless, but a unique, wonderful person was lost forever and his loved ones would do anything to change what happened, but it's too late. I'm really just trying to help Jay and his loved ones. May the Good Lord bless and keep you all safe and happy, with help, love, and compassion from all.
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